Live through the pain

Live through the pain, remember that this is better for the both of you.

長痛不如短痛。

Yes, the bear and other things brings much sadness.
At the spur of the moment, you might be inclined to think that it is alright, it is not that bad, there must be a way, I really miss her, I don't care I just want to be with her.

But remember why it can't work. Remember the reasons why it cannot carry on.
Remember that it will only hurt more if you continue with this mistake.

Do not think about how much sadness 宝宝 and 熊熊 can cause.
Do not think about how she is taking it.
Do not think about maybe I should give her a chance.
Do not think about she would try harder this time, and it will work out now.

The fact that this relationship has reached this stage, means that none of the above should mean anything.

Recognize and remember that this relationship cannot work out.
When you start thinking about all those times you had together, think about the frustration you had instead.

The bucket list is long...
Her language is pathetic. You love to and have the need to play with language, get grammar correct. She cannot even say proper sentences without pausing to think. Her brain works in shortcuts, shorting to the nearest approximate words to everything.
She do not understand what you are saying almost all the time.
She has no interests other than interest for food.
She is pathetically passive, waiting for things to happen.
She complains about things like she is helpless, yet situations she complains about are actually small things she can change; she complains instead of taking action.
She doesn't get your jokes/hints/philosophies.
Things that you find funny, she doesn't find them funny, she doesn't even understand what they are talking about most of the time.
She doesn't get what is it that you want.
She is immature and childish, and won't grow up because she doesn't see a need to.
The way she handles and plans things makes your blood boil.
She has no plans.
She don't bother to read up, even if she does, she doesn't understand.
She actively reject your teachings.
She finds significance in things that you don't care about, vice versa.
She cares about things only on the surface and doesn't look beyond the surface.
She fails to understand second level logic and the references (both funny and not) that you make and hence unable to link things together.
She doesn't appreciate or understand the beauty of certain stories, and you had to explain story-lines to her.
She is a conversation terminator; she replies everything with orh and never think about anything further.
She focuses on the wrong things in Forrest Gump, Good Will Hunting, Perks of Being a Wallflower, The Imitation Game.
She possess traits that you would define as failure in most of your philosophies.
When you find something funny but when you show it to her, she doesn't understand it at all.
She is so insensitive and passive that she doesn't know how to initiate intimacy.
She doesn't understand what you mean, the problem you have, what you are going through, and hence zero support.
When you go swimming, every other girl is more attractive; when you see other couples; you actually feel jealous.
She doesn't get what you would like to see her dressed in even when you literally told her.
She didn't listen when you explain about things, but only listen when it is posted by someone else online..
You never could relate any lyrics of love songs to her
She does not offer the support, the "Joe you can do it" that you so desperately need..
She looks up to you as a mentor for guidance, but you don't get any form of support from her except her telling you how helpless she is. Relationship is about mutual support..
You don't feel fulfilled in the relationship..
You never really felt the intimacy with her..
Remember that when you really wanted to cry, you didn't cry in front of her.
The strongest person may have the deepest insecurities, she did not see or understand that at all..

What I'm really looking for, is a girl who I can cry in front of, and tell me that "it's alright, I understand what you are going through, and we will face this together". And vice versa, I would be able to do the same for her.

So don't go bother yourself to think about how she's doing, how she's taking it, how she sad would be. Focus on getting yourself better and moving on. She is not your responsibility anymore, you can finally let it go.