Don't decide for others before they do

Do not assume that other's decision would be the worst case scenario.
It's just a weak way of managing your expectations so that you won't get disappointed.
In doing so, you are actually making that decision for them.
This may jeopardize the outcome and make it as bad as what you assumed it to be.

90KG

Made record today, for the first time in like 6 years, my weight is 90.0 KG.

Persistance, perseverance, conviction.

Active lifestyle has been really good for me. Generally more motivated and energetic.

No need for special workout, just daily quick exercises. Once right after waking up, once before going to sleep.

24× pushup
16× bicycle crunch
36× hip raise
20× leg raise
12× side crunch (per side)
20× reverse pushup

Numbers are weird, somehow I can do quite a number of hip raises, but weak in the bicycle crunch. But these numbers are already double of what I can do when I first started.

Keep on moving, keep on improving.

Ego is a sign of weakness

Ego is a weakness. The need of self justification stems from insecurity.

You will find peace if you can truly let go of your ego.

Don't ask why, ask why not

Some times you really should be asking why not instead of why.

If you ask why, it would be difficult to find reasons to do what you are supposed to do, then laziness kicks in and you end up generating excuses to avoid doing it.

If you ask why not, you will find that the excuses which are preventing you from doing it is weak. These excuses will then shatter and your path ahead will be cleared.

Everything comes to him who hustles while he waits (Part 2)

I have always been an impatient person.

I am objective oriented and have always been able to see what is there at the end of the line.

However, that precious foresight which I have becomes my poison.

Being able to see the end made life boring, made me feel like I am just waiting for time to pass, and there is no purpose in life since I have already anticipated the endpoint scenarios.

Little did I realize how wrong I was to neglect the process. I thought that process is pointless and the result is everything. But I had not realize that it is the process which makes me who I am – life is about getting there, wherever “there” is isn’t the point.

I once said that “You will learn patience when you learn to qualify the rewards at the end of the line.”

But that is not the whole part - patience is really about perseverance in spending the effort to reach that end.

I have always been trying to take shortcuts in life, and my very intelligence has enabled that. But sometimes there are no shortcuts, most relevant example is love. You have to take one step at a time to get closer and learn about each other.

If the other person is not ready, keep up the effort to make sure that when she is ready, you are there.

She needs time to close her previous wound, and she needs time to grow on you.

I used to think that “it’s either we will be together or we will not, might as well just dive straight in”. This cannot be more wrong. And this is precisely the mistake I have made in my previous relationship, and wasted 3.5 years of our time.

Everything comes to him who hustles while he waits.

This  means that in whatever you do, you have to put your best foot forward and have the patience to see it through the end. Things that you want will then come to you naturally.

Everything comes to him who hustles while he waits

Sir Thomas Edison, you are a genius. The answer was there all along, summarized in a concise line.

To me, this is the most accurate description of patience. Patience is not about waiting for things to happen, but about having the perserverance to press on and keep up the effort until the results come.

Good things come to those who wait but only the things left by those who hustle.
But not everything can be hustled.
Love is one of them.
So you must wait.

But while you wait, you should hustle and continue to put in effort, so that it will eventually come to you (instead of someone else).

爲了光輝嵗月

天地間任我展翅高飛
雖説那是天真的預言

風中揮舞狂亂的雙手
寫下燦爛的詩篇
不管有多麽疲倦
潮來潮往世界多變遷
迎接光輝嵗月
爲它一生奉獻

I'm in control

I used to feed on negativity. But little did I know, it was feeding on me, and it consumed me from the inside.

Now I know that it is not zero that I am looking for.

Just because I was afraid of failure and disappointment, I tried to detach myself from all feelings; I did not allow myself to be happy because I was afraid that happiness would be taken away from me.

But now I know that I was wrong.

Happy is good, I have the rights and I should go all out and enjoy every moment of joy.

It is the negativity which I need to control; now I have finally identified the true enemy, and now I can finally stand up against it.

Now I will control negativity, I will not let it affect me anymore.

Empower yourself

Why do you feel sad?

Did something not go your way?
Did you expect it to go your way?
Did you not expect that the result would be a possible scenario?

While there are no reasons to be happy, there is no actual reason to be sad too.
Remember that there is nothing. There is literally nothing.
If you start with nothing, and you end with nothing, then what is there to care about?
If you care for nothing, then what is there to be sad about?

If you understand and remember this, you will feel the stillness of deep water, and whatever happened is just a small disturbance which would ultimately fade away.

Manage your emotions.
Mood management is about managing the lows.
Happy is good, when you feel happy, just enjoy your happiness.
It's the lows which needs to be managed, because they seep into your core and poison you from within.
It's how you manage your low emotions that matters.

Remember how good you are, how far you have came, and the things which you can achieve that others cannot even hope to dream of.
Things are not that hard when you realize there is nothing that cannot be done.
You can do anything.

Furthermore, since you have nothing better to do, do something.

Drop all your troubles, worries and sorrows; live the moment.
放下所有烦恼，享受现在生命在这一刻 ，活在当下。

原諒我這一生不羈放縱愛自由

Pain is good for you

Pain is good, pain is a sign that your body is reacting to the conditions.

Be it psychological or physical, pain is your body bitching about what you are going through.

Remember this: no pain, no gain.

Through all the pain, you will emerge a better and stronger person.

What that doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

Success is really like lottery

Why do people buy the lottery?
Do they really expect to win with such a slim chance?

No. It's because if they don't buy, the chance of winning is zero.

There's a million ways things can fail, and only few ways it can succeed.

But if you don't do it, there is no way to succeed.

So don't say there's no point just because chances are slim.
Carpe diem, just do it.
You have nothing to lose.

Besides, it's not like you have anything better to do.

Stay focused

Set your goals, don't stop until you have achieved them.

I will stop at nothing until I achieved my goals.

Manage your time, your work, not manage your expectations.
Expect only the best of yourself.

I have no idea how to do it, but I will do it.
I will find ways and means to do it, and stop at nothing until I have done it.

Stop giving up

There are a million ways that things can fail.

The only way that you can succeed is through determination, conviction, and commitment.

I'm a man who is very hard to kill

I'm like a cockroach.

You can keep trying to bring me down, but I will keep coming back up.

Set your goals, find ways to achieve it. It's that simple.

Decide what you want to do, then find means to do it.
Decide what you want to have, then find ways to have it.

If you keep thinking about your current status, you will never move.

This is an extension of Do not let your paycheck determine your lifestyle

You cannot change the world.

But why would you want to change the world?

I say fuck the world, care about yourself.

Gaining perspective from others

Once in a while, you meet people who have been through so much more than you that you start reflecting on your own life.

Looking at what others have been through really gives you perspective on your own life.

My life is relatively smooth, I hardly had to fight for anything and things come to me naturally.
With an intelligence like mine, I'm practically living life with a cheat code.

Hence, the source of my frustration really comes from within: me being a little bitch.

If you keep racing against others and counting things which you lack, you would only find misery.

I've said it before, but I didn't actually understand what it means.
It seems you really need to get a feel of the shit others went through to get a feel of how blessed your life is.

Pessimism was a defence mechanism, but the actual concept should really be 要得过且过才好过

Nobody understands you (Part 2)

If you used your perspective to judge others' lives, it would not make sense to them.

Same logic for the vice versa.
That's why it feels like nobody ever understand how you feel, what you are going through.

What you need then, is someone with similar perspective as you.