Stupidity

Nothing can be said to stupid people to make them change.

They are stupid and will not comprehend.

Accept their stupidity and use it to make things work for you.

Life and Dreams

Dreams which cannot be achieved are why they are called dreams.

What an irony it is: if your dreams cannot be achieved – there is no meaning to life, if your dreams can be achieved – it is too easy and hence there is no meaning to life.

The agony between you and your dreams; this pain defines you.

Acceptance have 5 stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. If you cannot accept life as it is, there is only pain the preceding stages.

Doing

It doesn't start, unless you start doing it.
It doesn't continue, unless you continue doing it.
It doesn't stop, unless you stop doing it.

Starting or keeping or breaking a habit.
It's that simple.

Don't waste your breath

The weight of your words is determined by your position in the social circle.
If people refuse to listen, they will never do until your worth changes.

People who will listen to you, listens. People who won't listen to you, it doesn't matter what you say.
Don't waste your breath challenging  and convincing them. Put the effort in improving your worth.

Ideals are too idealistic

Ideals are based on the assumption that everyone are operating at optimal efficiency.
In the real world, not everyone operates at optimal efficiency.
In the real world, it is about making do with what you have.

Just saying

When to talk and when to shut up?

It's not what you want to say.
It's not what people need to hear.
It's saying what people wants to hear.

More tact. More tact.

More tact is required to proceed.

Found this article which may be helpful. Bookmarking it here:
The Art of Tact and Diplomacy

There is no need to be judgemental

Stupidity is the issue of the individual. There is no need to strain yourself over others' stupidity. Free yourself of your own need to judge others.

Getting There

Where I am, to where I want to be.
I was whining about not knowing how to get there, and how I won't get there no matter what I do.
Now, I will find a way to get there. I will do what needs to be done.

放开。起飞。

No need to stress. No need to worry.

If you are meant to be, you will be.

If you are not meant to be, there is no point in worrying.

Determination

Something that I have lacked for far too long; time to straighten it out.

Stay focused.
Stay focused.
Stay focused.

I Believe

I believe in what i say.

I have no religion, don't believe in people, morals or ethics.

But i have my philosophy; that is perhaps where I can find my meaning.

For so long I've been looking up upon the skies for a sign, without realizing that I've been the guide of my own all along.

My philosophy is not complete; my philosophy may have flaws. But that is where I need to strive, to fill in the uncharted regions.

The Stare

If you find someone staring at you, but shies away when you stare back, he is a coward.

The right way to stare is to maintain the staring eye contact for a moment, and smile.

In that way, you would not lose out in the clash of ego, yet the smile will melt the staring hostility away.

Life is but a show, the world is your stage

The web of life is intertwined.
The contradictions of life are interwined.
The ironies of life are intertwined.
The pain of life is intertwined.

After a while, you'll get used to them.
You'll get used to pain.

The Right Balance

Between talking too much, and keeping too quiet.
Knowing when to shut up, and knowing when to defend your stand.

If you are dark, make sure you go pitch black

He who is not afraid of death is afraid of nothing at all.
And all these negative energies will become his strength.

There are no cracks in a man who fears nothing.

And from that day on, he does not smile any more

Smile is bad - not serious, very frivolous.

Live like you have a point to prove

I suppose that is one way to live.

No need to explain

No need to explain at all.

Either understand or not - explanation pointless and not required.

The Successful Man

Successful people identify their goals, think of ways to reach their goals, and perservere all the way until they have reached it.

They do not make compromises with themselves, for making compromises with yourself is like bluffing yourself, cheating yourself, cutting your own corners.

The majority others have aspirations of similar goals, but eventually concludes that it is too difficult to do it.

I've been spending way too much time pondering on what will happen at the end of each path, and ultimately concluding that the grass is greener on the other paths, but I may not be suitable for it. What I should have done is to just kick start right into it, and find a way to make it work - to reach the greener grass.

Emotional Control

I have pride myself for being emotionally detached, and assumed that being emotionally detached is the strength to stay objective in any situation. But at the same time, I know that it is not true, I still panic at times.

The wise man does not panic, for he has seen it all already, and realize that nothing matters.

This forced me to think that I am still a greenhorn, and I tried to give less damn about everything. But the original assumption was wrong. The wise man does not panic because he has seen it all already, but the part "that nothing matters" was wrong. It is not because nothing matters, but because he has learned how to control it.

Being emotionally detached is in essence a sociopath behaviour. Assuming that being emotionally detach is the key to being objective led to a viscous cycle. Each time it fails, I tried very hard to detach myself. But in the first place, I confused control and ignorance of emotions; ignoring your emotions doesn't solve the problem, it ignores it - it fails.

Control of emotions doesn't mean you do not feel. Recalling my article on Psychological Homeostasis, the key is the processing between emotions and reactions. How good you are at being aware of your emotions, and controlling your response to those emotions, will show how "high level" a human you are.

At the epitome of the control of emotions, you make your mood work for you.
You can be aggressive, yet patient to the details.
You can be confident, yet not allow your ego control you.
You can remain still as deep water, and strike with strength and precision.
You will know when and how to have fun, yet be serious when necessary - really serious, not acting serious.
You will realize that there is no bad situation, every shit can be managed.
You will no longer take things personally, it is not always about you - even if it's a comment made on you.

Taking Action

I have plans; I have a lot of plans. Many plans on live, career, what I want to achieve. But there have always been a gap between myself and those objectives which I didn't acheive. That is action. I realized that many of my plans involves determination, perserverance, taking risks. Whenever I reach that part of a plan, I give up and say "it's not gonna work", or "I don't know if I can make it". That's giving up before anything actually start. This time, it is time to take the ideas that I have and jump right into it. Because you can't really know if the other side, or any side of the grass is greener unless you're in it.

Emotional Attachment

While cleaning out my cupboard, I noticed that I am throwing out a lot of items. I have a guideline for throwing things away: throw anything that haven't been touched for more then a year. My girlfriend has some objections on that, as certain things are supposed to be "significant". I was just described as being emotionally detached recently, and that has triggered quite a lot of thought. From attempting to reason my ease in throwing "significant" things out. I just realized what it means to be emotionally detached.

Emotions are just attributes which you assign to people, items, events, or anything at all.

Being emotional or feeling something towards something just means that you have assigned more attributes to that something.

On the other hand, being emotionally detached just means that you don't give anything any extra attributes.
Which can be caused my many things, really:

• You don't give a damn
• You have been hurt before, causing a withdrawal to give meaning to anything
• You are simply lazy
• Other

I guess in my case, it a combination of everything. I am lazy, it's a pain to keep track of anything at all, so I don't give a damn. Also, if I keep everything logical, I don't give them a chance to get at me at all. This gives me a clear head and allow me to look at anything objectively and professionally.

I have done my best

I have done my best, really. We have already known that it was too huge to handle since the start, yet foolishly we hoped that we can cut it somehow. Too much of misplaced trust, so much of inexperience; it was not meant to be.

The only consolation now is all the lessons learned thus far. Although it is not going to end well at all, we have all learned so much in all the rubbish that we have been thru. This, in some sense, is also an accomplishment; an accomplishment that perhaps no one else understands.