Love – let it be (Part 2)

不要想太多。There is no need to analyse and classify every single thing. Poking and probing things "just for the sake of discussion" is pointless. Learn to accept that things are just the way they are, and there is no need to change them.

我愛高貴，妳愛舒服。
我愛吃肉，妳覺得肉不健康。
我覺得該住中央，要四房，貴點也值得；妳覺得西邊好 - 會增值，三房就夠，沒這樣貴。
我覺得體重安於現狀，持之以恆就好；妳覺得這樣的build不瘦是浪費。

The fact is, there are bound to be many differences in our perspectives, but they are built on each other's life and experiences. There are blind spots to both of our perspectives, and we see things which each other may have missed.

People are just the way they are, there is no need to change. Or we can say that love is about acceptance and compromise. Living with each other means living with everything of each other.

Problems and conflicts arises when you try to change the other.

Compromising is not losing; it's about accepting and giving in.
Because you love her - you do not want to see her hurt by you.
Because you'd rather take a step backwards yourself than straining the relationship.
Because she is worth it.

And there is no taking turns or expecting returns in love.
You accept because being her is what makes her who she is - and you love her for who she is.
You compromise because you love her and your goal of the relationship is to see her happy, and be happy together.

Love – let it be

“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation."
– Osho