Basis of Arrogance

Always remember that the basis of arrogance is insecurity.

The need to constantly show that you are better comes from the need to constantly lick your own ego and remind yourself how good you are.

Truly capable individuals have no need to advertise themselves as everyone already know how good they are.

Wait a little longer

Not now, Joe.

Harness your patience, keep your cool; wait a little longer.

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Problem Solver

Spotting the problem is easy, it is finding the solution which is difficult.
When you complain about how "this is not the right way to do things", ask yourself "what would you have done if you are the decision maker".

Telling more is not necessarily better

Learning to read your audiences' expressions and stop when you point is already driven across (or rejected) is the key.

Cynicism is bad

Cynicism narrows your mind, keeps your perspective closed.

Sarcasm has been my defensive tool for some time now, I never really realized what it does to me. Sarcasm poisons your mind.

I realized that optimism is not about finding the silver lining in every shit. Optimism is about opening your perspective to see that shit is not the only thing. Keep your mind open for every opportunities that is out there.

Take an example more relevant to myself, I’ve always want to be the rich ass that stays at Cove, spend money like nobody’s business. I learnt quickly that people in high places have acquaintances with the right people who put them in high places, and concluded that my life is bullshit since there is no practical way that I would make such a network.

I complained about my job, the amount of bullshit that it entails. But I failed to truly realize that I am already having the kind of opportunities that many cannot even dream of. My network may be small, but my work gives me the opportunities to know more people.

The fact that I am too young and inexperienced may be dismal, but I should be glad that I have such opportunities at such a young age. By the time I am 30s, I may have the kind of exposure that would make me successful.

Cynicism is bad, it closes your mind to opportunities. You need to keep an opened mind to look at things from all perspectives; you need to keep an opened mind to be successful.

Excuses are bad for you

I realized that one of the problem is I have is how good I am in generating excuses.

This is again the side effect of one of my strengths, which is my ability generate alternatives.

This means that even I begin in any plans, I will seek for an exit strategy first. Should there be an exit strategy, I tend to jump to the conclusion that the chance of succeeding is too low, or the impact of failure is too high, and give up altogether.

This is the first in history that I finally concede that pessimism is bad for you. It is a self-defense mechanism to bluff yourself into believing that everything is bad and will turn out bad, so there is no reason to try, and since there is no reason to try, there is no way to fail. Pessimism eventually slips into cynicism.

The essentially means that I will attempt only things which are proven to work, and dismiss everything else as mission impossible. That also explains why there has not been any groundbreaking achievements in my life.

It’s time I should make that self-proclaimed dare to try attitude into a real one.