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Saturday, October 31, 2015

Be objective, be composed

Things happen, good or bad. Sometimes for a reason, sometimes for no reason at all. It's how you decide to react to it that determines its effect on you.

Being sarcastic and passive aggressive about things does not solve anything. It makes things worse. I've learned this the hard way, as usual.

Always stay objective. Underpaid? Unappreciated? But no way to change things in the current environment?

Work hard to change what you can, or change the environment. But work silently in the background. Nobody needs to know what you are planning. There is nothing to show off.

Learn from the water which runs deep and violent under the ocean, yet show nothing but peace and calm on the surface. Plan wisely, quietly, prudently; strike in a sudden sweep and strike hard like the tsunami.

Friday, October 30, 2015

Lessons from work


I've been behaving like an idiot, a spoiled kid at work. Very unprofessional, jeopardizing my own progress.

Remember, the really powerful ones are those who strike without making a sound. Empty vessels really do make the most noise. I must learn to be more restrained, still and deep like the ocean. 深藏不露 is the key to success.

Keep information to yourself. The more you know, the better, but others do not need to know. Don't even go about verifying your intel. Listen, observe, and don't say a word.

Keep your emotions to yourself. No matter how unhappy you are about your job, keep it to yourself. No matter what happens, never show your emotions at work, especially negativity. It portrays a bad image of yourself.

Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Still haven't learned to keep your mouth shut

Think you're smart? Think you're popular?
Think going around shooting your mouth off, being a sarcastic smart aleck is cool?

You were being used.

Information that you knew were leaked to you on purpose.
Others were trying to use your big mouth to spread rumors, and you fell right into the trap.

Every move you make, every step you take, every word you speak, people are watching you, judging you.

Watch yourself, watch your words, 檢點一點。

Don't get yourself unwanted attention. Keep information to yourself. Listen more, talk less.
You may think that no one is listening, but the fact is, everyone is silently judging you without you knowing. Just because they don't say, doesn't mean they don't know. And when they know more about you than you know it, you are giving them strength, and rendering yourself weak.

Monday, October 19, 2015

是我想太多

事情往往沒有我想的那麽複雜。所有的問題都是自己想出來的。

Assuming the worst possible scenario is the weakest form of self defense. You try to prepare yourself for the worst, then tell yourself to accept it, and it doesn't matter.

Sometimes, all you need to do is ask. Information is the most powerful tool. Lack of information is your worst nightmare. I tried to fill in gaps of information with horrid imagination, making it seem like the worst possible scenario.

But this is not only damaging to yourself, but damaging to other parties involved as well. You are essentially making assumptions and judgement of people, deciding things for them even before they do. It is not a fair judgement; it is not what they want or what they would have chosen. You did not respect their rights in the involvement.

At the same time, you bring yourself down to the lowest and label yourself "un-kill-able" as you have already brought yourself to the lowest, and they can't put you down anymore. No expectations = no disappointments, right? Seriously, bullshit. This is again a weak way of defending your emotions. by conceding defeat before the fight, you deny others of "winning". But the biggest loser is your own self. You have already lost respect of yourself, how would you expect others to respect you?

So please, do yourself a favor. Before you go around assuming, judging and making decisions for others, please ask them for their side of the story and their opinions first. Learn to respect others, learn to respect yourself.

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

心如直水

以平常心去應對生命中的每一個低潮。
人生本來就是沒有意義的。
既然沒有意義,又何處來的憂愁?

既然已經決定了,再在意就是不對。
而且結果其實已經早就猜到了。
別再想了。

最大的願望就是悄悄地從地球表面消失

我okay的,我永遠衹是個可有可無的配角,我習慣的做著可有可無的配角。

Friday, October 9, 2015

Stand and fight, rise up to the challenge

Here's what challenging yourself is about: whenever you start to think that something cannot be done, throw yourself into the other side, seek out ways to do it and defeat the side of you which said it cannot be done.

There are a million ways which things can fail, and only few ways to succeed. Manage the ways which things can fail so that their risks reduce to the minimum. Seek out the few ways to succeed and focus on them until you succeed.

Things do not fail until they do. Failures cannot affect you until you let them. Have no fear, don't worry about failures. Focusing on lose rates consumes you and you develop a habit of giving up so that you won't get disappointed.

Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Don't count your eggs before they are hatched

I realized why I was spending recklessly.

I was spending like I have that kind of paycheck before it come.
I did not manage my expectations right.

"Decide the lifestyle you want to lead and fight for the paycheck to sustain it" is a dangerous way of living.

You may be biting off more than you can chew.

To think of it, I may not even be ready for that kind of stress and effort required.

Tuesday, October 6, 2015

錢,原來真的很重要

Declined a job job offer because it didn't meet my 20% increment. Reasons are clear and correct, and the job does have a lot of risks involved. But it felt like I have just lost money. Although it didn't meet the 20%, the increment is still very good - and it would have put me 3 years ahead of schedule to meet that magic number.

This made me reflect on the way I have been spending money. I have been throwing money away. 做老板 anyhow open bottle, over drinking until go hospital, buying luxurious new stuff, randomly agreeing to go overseas without thinking. I thought that getting a car is a waste of money, but the way I'm spending money is even worse.

I realized that I may not be as open minded about money as I thought. I realized that actually 我把錢看得挺重的. Spending money without thinking is not something I can afford.

But further thinking made me realize that I have been slack and lazy, I have not put in my 100% - not even 50%.  I would like to blame my 損友s for always going early happy hours instead of working, but I realized that I have only myself to blame for leading this kind of lifestyle and drinking excessively. The time wasted by this lifestyle is not just the time spent drinking, but also the overhead caused by energy drain of drinking.

Go work at 11am, talk cock for 1 hour, go for 2 hours lunch from 12-2pm, meeting for 2 hours 2-4pm, go drink kopi or early happy hour from 4pm onward. 這樣的生活很爽吧?

What the fuck, seriously what the fuck was I thinking?

I spent much of my time slacking off and not working at all. Go drinking 3-4 times a week. So much time and money wasted. Once again, seriously, what the fuck?

Once again, with the compliments which I have been getting, I became too full of myself, I was complacent. It is true that 50% of my effort is better than 100% of others, but I let myself down by not fulfilling my potential. Remember, always remember that you should live out your full potential.

Fortunately, I realized this problem early, even though a lot of money has been wasted. Time to put myself back together and stay focused and disciplined.